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Grief and loss

Losing someone, a job, a business or a future you planned. There is no right way to grieve.

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Men are often expected to be the strong one at funerals and in hard times. But grief does not disappear because it is hidden. It may come out as anger, silence, overwork or drinking instead of tears, and that is common.

Two men sharing a comforting embrace on a sofa

How grief can show up in men

  • Staying busy

    Throwing yourself into work or tasks so you do not have to feel anything.

  • Irritability or anger

    Short temper, restlessness or lashing out at people close to you.

  • Withdrawal

    Avoiding people, places or conversations that remind you of the loss.

  • Numbness

    Feeling nothing at all, then guilt for feeling nothing.

Moving through it

  1. 1

    Let yourself feel it

    You can be strong and sad at the same time.

  2. 2

    Talk about who or what you lost

    Share memories with someone who knew them, or someone who will listen.

  3. 3

    Keep small routines

    Meals, sleep and light exercise help when everything else feels unstable.

  4. 4

    Ask for help if you are stuck

    If grief is stopping you from functioning after several months, or you feel you cannot go on, speak to a professional.

Talk to someone

  • National Mental Health and Suicide Prevention Helpline

    0800 678 678

    Run by the Mental Health Authority. Toll-free.

    Free to call

  • National Emergency Line

    112

    Police, ambulance and fire. Use it if someone is in immediate danger.

    Free to call

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