Signs you are in a toxic relationship

• Constant criticism or contempt

  You are regularly insulted, mocked, called useless or compared to others, in private or in public.

• Control

  Someone checks your phone, controls your money, decides who you can see, or demands to know where you are at all times.

• You walk on eggshells

  You plan what you say and do to avoid an argument, and you feel relief when the other person is away.

• Threats and intimidation

  You are threatened, including threats to hurt you, to leave and keep the children, to expose you, or to harm themselves if you leave.

• Violence

  You are hit, slapped, pushed, scratched or have things thrown at you. Violence against men happens and it is still abuse.

• Isolation

  You have drifted away from friends and family, or you are made to feel guilty for spending time with them.

• Your money is used against you

  Your earnings are taken, you are pressured to provide beyond your means, or you are shamed over money.

• You have lost yourself

  You feel anxious, small and unsure of your own judgement, and you no longer recognise the person you were.

A relationship can be unhappy without being abusive, and every couple argues. The difference is fear, control and a pattern that repeats. If you are afraid, trust that feeling.